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Reflecting on my journey, I often liken life to a river—constantly flowing, sometimes calm, other times turbulent. This metaphor has been a guiding principle, helping me understand the twists and turns that have led me to where I am today. Just as a river encounters obstacles and changes course, our lives are filled with unexpected events and challenges that shape our path. Embracing this perspective has allowed me to navigate life’s uncertainties with resilience and adaptability.

In my personal experience, viewing life as a river has provided clarity during difficult times. It reminds me that, like water, we can find new paths when faced with obstacles. This mindset encourages me to embrace change and trust in the process, knowing that each experience contributes to my growth and understanding. By accepting the ebb and flow of life, I find peace in the journey, appreciating both the calm and the storm.

Early Life: Navigating the Rapids

Growing up in Detroit, I faced challenges that set me apart. Undiagnosed dyslexia and ADHD made me feel like an outsider, struggling to fit in. The 1960s were a tumultuous time, and my draft number was “2,” indicating military service in the Army very soon. Choosing to join the Navy was a decision that accelerated my maturation and frankly saved my life.

After my service, I married young and became a father. While my first marriage ended, it brought me a daughter whom I cherish deeply. The end of that chapter was marked by grief and reflection, but it also paved the way for personal growth.

Second Marriage: A New Chapter

My second marriage introduced me to a woman who had lots of integrity and love. Together, we had a child, a journey I recounted in my blog, “Cracked Open.” However, circumstances led us to part ways, and once again, I found myself reflecting on love, relationships, and my own identity.

Discovering the Enneagram: Understanding My Inner Self

Throughout these experiences, I grappled with understanding my behaviors and emotions. The Enneagram, a personality framework, became a tool for self-discovery. It illuminated my core motivations and fears, helping me comprehend why I acted the way I did. I realized I could be deeply loving and supportive, yet, at times, overwhelmed by anger and shame.

The Enneagram is a model of the human psyche that categorizes personalities into nine interconnected types. Each type has its own set of motivations, fears, and behaviors. By identifying my type, I gained clarity about the underlying forces shaping my experiences. This self-awareness was the first step toward personal growth and transformation.

Meeting Lynette: Finding My Eddy

Then, the river took a significant turn. I met Lynette. Initially, I didn’t think much of her or even like her, but over time, our professional collaborations blossomed into a deep friendship. We shared a mutual understanding of life’s journey, spirituality and as we both became free from previous relationships, our bond deepened. We married on a small farm, surrounded by close friends and family.

Lynette became my “Eddy”—a term I use to describe a place of rest and renewal amidst life’s rapid flow. In the context of our journey, an “Eddy” refers to a calm, peaceful area in a river where one can pause, reflect, and rejuvenate. For me, Lynette was that sanctuary, providing a space where I could find solace and peace. And I realize deeply that not everyone has a person that can be their eddy. But in the way I am writing this blog an eddy can be any place, person or thing that helps you find peace in a storm or the wild rapids.

Eddy Hopping: A Metaphor for Rest and Renewal

Over the past decade, Lynette and I have immersed ourselves in diverse spiritual trainings across the globe, profoundly enriching our lives and deepening our understanding of the world. These experiences have introduced us to various practices and philosophies, each offering unique insights and perspectives. Through this journey, we have embraced the concept of “Eddy Hopping,” a practice that involves intentionally seeking moments of rest and peace amidst the rapid flow of life’s demands. This practice has become a metaphor for finding pockets of tranquility, allowing us to pause, reflect, and rejuvenate. In this context, Lynette has become my personal Eddy—a sanctuary where I can find solace and clarity amidst the chaos.

The concept of “Eddy Hopping” serves as a reminder to intentionally seek out these moments of peace and reflection. Just as a river flows continuously, life often propels us forward without pause. However, by consciously seeking out these “Eddies,” we can find moments of respite that allow us to rejuvenate and gain clarity. This practice has been instrumental in helping us navigate the complexities of modern life, providing a space to reconnect with ourselves and our purpose. By incorporating “Eddy Hopping” into our daily routines, we have cultivated a deeper sense of balance and well-being, enabling us to face life’s challenges with greater resilience and mindfulness.

The River’s Flow: Embracing Life’s Journey

Reflecting on my life’s journey, I perceive it as a river’s flow—a continuous series of experiences that have shaped me into who I am today. This metaphor aligns with the Kawa model, a culturally responsive framework in occupational therapy that uses the river to represent human occupation and life flow. The challenges, relationships, and moments of self-discovery have been integral to my growth, each contributing to the unique path I’ve traveled. Embracing the river’s flow signifies accepting life’s unpredictability and finding ways to navigate its challenges. It involves seeking out moments of peace and reflection, whether through relationships, personal practices, or other means. By doing so, we can find balance and fulfillment amidst the chaos.

The river’s ceaseless flow symbolizes the constant passage of time and the potential for personal growth, transformation, and spiritual cleansing. Just as a river adapts to its surroundings, we too can learn to navigate life’s challenges with resilience and grace. This perspective encourages us to embrace change, trust the journey, and find strength in our ability to adapt and grow. By viewing life as a river, we can appreciate the ebb and flow of our experiences and find peace in the knowledge that each moment contributes to our ongoing journey.

Embracing the Flow

Life’s river is unpredictable, but embracing its flow, seeking moments of rest, and understanding oneself can lead to profound peace and fulfillment. My journey has been one of self-discovery, love, and growth. And friends, the journey has not always been fun, but through the metaphor of the river and the concept of Eddy Hopping, I have learned to navigate life’s challenges and find moments of peace amidst the flow.

Note: This post concludes my series on Eddy Hopping. I share these personal reflections with Lynette’s permission, hoping they resonate with others on their own journeys.