Finding Calm in Chaos

Finding Calm in Chaos How Mindfulness Transforms Emotional Regulation

I really could imagine standing in the eye of a storm, because it has often happened to me, where everything around me was chaotic, and at times I felt out of control.  Yet with mindfulness I  remained calm and centered. This is a story about  the power of mindfulness in emotional regulation. Using myself as the subject and by integrating these simple practices into my daily life, I was able to transform how I  responded to the world around me and found a life more filled with joy and happiness.

Let’s start with the story of Sarah, a busy professional who once felt overwhelmed by her emotions and often acted impulsively without thought to the outcomes. She was juggling work deadlines, family responsibilities with her wonderful 3 kids and social commitments that left her feeling anxious and reactive. However, when she had no where else to turn she tried a simple mindfulness practice that a friend recommended to her, and everything changed almost overnight. When she went to the course put on by one of my favorite teachers, Jon Cabot Zinn, he taught her the basics of meditation, deep breathing exercises, and body awareness techniques. Sarah learned to regain control over her emotional responses. Her journey continues today with a deeper understanding of why we need tools to become free and illustrates the profound impact mindfulness can have on emotional intelligence.

When you have a regular mindfulness practice you are able to enhance emotional regulation.    Some effective mindfulness practices that can help you manage your emotions are listed here.

Meditation is a way to start and starting with just five minutes a day to center your thoughts. Find a quiet space, close your eyes, and focus on your breath. This simple practice can help clear your mind and set a positive tone for the day.

Deep Breathing helps in moments of stress, by reminding us to just breathe. Inhale slowly through your nose, hold for a few seconds, and exhale through your mouth. This technique can significantly reduce reactivity and bring a sense of calm. This type of breathing is called box breathing.

Body Awareness is how you tune into your physical sensations. Take a moment to notice how your body feels—are there areas of tension? Acknowledging these sensations can foster self-awareness and help you respond to emotions more thoughtfully.

One of my favorite things for creating a mindful environment is to picture yourself in a serene garden: each breath is a gentle breeze that calms your mind. This is the pure essence of mindfulness—a practice that brings peace amidst the world’s noise. If you want to cultivate this environment, consider incorporating elements that promote tranquility, such as plants, calming colors, or soothing sounds.

I have, like many of you, struggled with emotional reactivity. I could get mad or even jealous at the drop of a hat. It is not very attractive to others that I was close to, and frankly I lost friendships because of my non-regulation. When I had nothing else to lose and embraced mindfulness, it turned out to be a game-changer for me, helping me to navigate the hard challenges of life with grace and composure. I found that by practicing mindfulness regularly, I could respond to stressors with a clearer mind and a more balanced perspective.

I had to understand what it meant to “Engage with MY journey,” meaning what was going on inside of me. As an invitation, how do you currently manage stress? I invite you to share your experiences in the comments below. By doing this we can explore mindfulness together and support one another on this journey toward emotional regulation.

By weaving and embracing mindfulness into your daily routine, you will not only manage your emotional responses but also promote non-violent behavior. Why is this important? Because we don’t realize how often we do violence to ourselves with our responses to emotions. Start today, and experience the tranquility that mindfulness brings. Remember please, every small step counts on the path to emotional well-being.