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 The Power of Posture: Transforming the World Through Spiritual Alignment

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In this world that often feels fragmented and disconnected, the quest for harmony and understanding becomes even more pressing. We search for ways to bridge divides, foster empathy, and cultivate a sense of belonging. What if the key to this transformation lies not in grand gestures or sweeping reforms, but in something as simple and personal as our posture?

I would like to suggest that when we think of posture, we typically envision the physical—how we stand, sit, or move. Yet, posture is so much more than a physical stance; it is a way of being, a manner in which we present ourselves to the world. It encompasses wonder, empathy, openness, gratitude, compassion, hope, and empowerment. You can consciously aligin your physical and spiritual postures, you can create ripples of change that extend far beyond yourself.

The historical roots of how the concept of spirituality has evolved over centuries, originating from the Latin word *spiritualitas* in the 5th century. Initially, it referred to spiritual conduct and devoutness, but over time, it has come to signify an inner, personal spiritual life. This evolution mirrors the way our understanding of posture has expanded beyond the physical to include the spiritual and emotional dimensions.

In the early days, spirituality was closely tied to physical expressions—kneeling in humility, raising hands in praise, or sitting in meditation. These postures were not mere rituals; they were profound expressions of one’s inner state and alignment with a higher power. Today, as we seek to reconnect with the essence of spirituality, we can draw inspiration from these ancient practices, recognizing the deep connection between our physical and spiritual selves.

 

Our physical posture is our reflection to the world and often serves as a nonverbal communication of our internal spiritual/emotional  states. Consider the act of kneeling, which conveys humility and reverence, or the lifting of hands, symbolizing joy and praise. These gestures are more than symbolic; they are powerful expressions of our spiritual alignment to ourselves and world around us.

When we sit with closed-off postures, such as folded arms, we may be signalling a lack of engagement or a guarded heart. Conversely, an open and upright posture can reflect a readiness to embrace new experiences and connect with others. By becoming aware of our physical postures, we can cultivate a deeper understanding of our spiritual attitudes and intentions.

 

The relationship between posture and spirituality is bidirectional. Just as our spiritual mindset can influence our physical posture, so too can our physical stance impact our spiritual experiences. This mind-body connection is a powerful tool for enhancing our spiritual practices.

Remember that what some people call “soul” and others call “energy” is the essence that flows through us. our “isness” if you will. what makes us, us. without it we are not here. And that essence is what we might be calling spiritual or our true nature. More on this concept in later blogs.

Taking an upright posture, for example, allows for better breathing and energy flow, supporting spiritual focus and clarity. Ritualistic body postures, such as bowing or prostrating, can facilitate a deeper spiritual connection, anchoring our beliefs and practices in the body. By consciously adopting postures that align with our spiritual intentions, we can create a more holistic and embodied spiritual/emotional experience.

Our physical postures also have profound psychological effects, influencing our emotions and mental states during spiritual practice. Downcast or constrictive postures may evoke feelings of humility and introspection, while upright or expansive postures can inspire confidence, praise, and a sense of empowerment.

By experimenting with different postures, we can explore the psychological and emotional dimensions of our spirituality and emotions. This exploration can lead to greater self-awareness and a deeper connection with our inner selves, our isness, fostering a sense of peace and fulfillment.

Empowerment is a key aspect of both posture and spirituality. When we stand tall and open, we project confidence and strength, embodying our spiritual identity. This empowerment extends beyond the individual, influencing our interactions with others and our ability to effect positive change in the world.

By embracing postures that reflect empowerment, we can inspire others to do the same. Our physical stance becomes a beacon of hope and possibility, encouraging those around us to stand tall in their own spiritual journeys. In this way, posture becomes a powerful tool for creating a more harmonious and compassionate world.

Gratitude and compassion are integral to both posture and spirituality. When we adopt a posture of gratitude, we open ourselves to the abundance of life, recognizing the beauty and blessings that surround us. This openness fosters a sense of connection and belonging, nurturing our relationships with others and the world.

Similarly, a posture of compassion invites us to extend kindness and understanding to ourselves and others. By embodying compassion in our physical stance, we create a space for healing and reconciliation, bridging divides and fostering unity.

In a world that often feels divided and disconnected, the power of posture offers a simple yet profound path to transformation. By aligning our physical and spiritual postures, we can cultivate wonder, empathy, openness, gratitude, compassion, hope, and empowerment. These qualities become the foundation for a more harmonious and compassionate world.

As we embark on this journey of alignment, let us remember that change begins with us. By consciously choosing our postures, we can create ripples of change that extend far beyond ourselves, inspiring others to join us in the quest for a better world. Together, we can stand tall, embodying the values and virtues that will guide us toward a brighter future.

Awaken to Your Story: Attuning to Your Narrative

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Do you feel that inner voice calling you to awaken to your own story? Perhaps it whispers to you amidst the chaos of daily life, urging you to sift through the messiness of your experiences. In a world saturated with stories—some uplifting, others disheartening—how do we navigate our own narrative? How do we transform the tales we tell ourselves into something more empowering?

In this blog, I would like to explore the concept of ATTUNING to what is true for you, drawing on some of the transformative work of Michael White and David Epston in Narrative Therapy. We will delve into the importance of critical thinking, critical feeling, and critical spiritual reflection, and how these practices can help us change the narratives we live by.

Every day, there is a call to awaken, (yes it is true) and since we are bombarded with stories—news headlines, social media posts, and of course the narratives of those around us, we may miss the call. These stories shape our perceptions, ideas and influence our beliefs about ourselves and the world. But amidst this cacophony of noise, do we take the time to listen to our own story?

The first step in this journey is recognizing that you have a story worth telling. It’s easy to feel lost in the noise, but your experiences, no matter how tangled or messy, are valid. They are the threads that weave the fabric of your identity.

To truly awaken to your story, you must engage in critical thinking, critical feeling, and critical spiritual reflection. This means being fearless in asking yourself the right questions about your life. Are you living in alignment with your values? Are you allowing external narratives to dictate your self-worth? Do you go along with the flow of information because it is much easier than “thinking”?

For instance, consider a person who has faced significant challenges in their career or life. They may feel defined by their failures, believing that they are not capable of success. However, through critical reflection, they can begin to identify moments of resilience and growth. Perhaps they overcame a difficult project or received positive feedback from a colleague. These “unique outcomes” can serve as powerful reminders that their narrative is not solely defined by setbacks. In fact the pain of a setback might just be like shedding skin that is to small for this next part of your like.

Ahhh now comes a part I love, attuning to your own story involves listening closely to your experiences and emotions. It requires a willingness to explore the depths of your inner narrative, even the uncomfortable parts. This is where the work of Michael White and David Epston becomes particularly relevant. Their approach emphasizes the importance of attuned listening and the exploration of life stories to identify unique outcomes that contradict problem-saturated narratives

Here is an example to put it in to context, imagine a woman named Sarah who has always struggled with feelings of inadequacy. She often compares herself to others, believing she falls short in her personal and professional life. This narrative has become so ingrained that it affects her relationships and self-esteem. Through the process of attuning to her story, Sarah begins to reflect on her experiences. She recalls a time when she successfully led a team project, receiving praise for her leadership skills. By focusing on this unique outcome for her, Sarah can start to re-author her narrative. Instead of seeing herself as inadequate, she begins to recognize her strengths and capabilities.

This reframing holds immense value. It empowers Sarah to approach future challenges with a renewed sense of confidence, allowing her to break free from the constraints of her previous narrative.

There is value in identifying unique outcomes that is a cornerstone of Narrative Therapy. These moments serve as evidence that contradicts the dominant, problem-saturated narratives we often tell ourselves. By focusing on these positive experiences, we can begin to shift our perspective and create a more empowering story

Please consider another example: a young man named Alex who has always felt overshadowed by his siblings. He believes he is the “black sheep” of the family, struggling to find his place. However, through attuned listening and reflection, Alex recalls a time when he pursued a passion for art, receiving recognition for his talent in a local exhibition. This unique outcome challenges his narrative of being unworthy or unaccomplished. By embracing this moment, Alex can begin to see himself as an individual with unique gifts and contributions. This shift not only enhances his self-esteem but also allows him to engage more authentically with his family and community.

Using myself as an example, I grew up with Dyslexia and ADHD together at a time when most professionals did not know what to do with this behavior. The outside noise in the names I was called, the looks I endured, and the extream loneliness was soul crushing. I truly felt that I was worth, nothing, absolutely nothing. But I had one teacher that saw something in me and suggested a cooking program that I started in 10th grade. It changed my life! I saw that I had value and started to tune out the noise that was destructive and paid attention to the noise that was helping me grow.  I eventually started the journey that took me to years of training in the social practices like spiritual direction and coaching.  It answered my questions and helped me to shine a light, illuminating that path that others might want to take.

So, here are a few of my thought in how we can change the narratives we tell ourselves? It begins with a commitment to attune to our own stories. Here are some practical steps to help you on this journey:

 

Practice Attuned Listening: Set aside time to reflect on your experiences. Write in a journal or speak to a trusted friend or therapist who can listen without judgment.

Identify Unique Outcomes: Look for moments in your life that contradict your dominant narrative. What achievements, strengths, or positive experiences can you highlight?

Re-author Your Story: Use the unique outcomes you’ve identified to reframe your narrative. Instead of focusing on limitations, emphasize your strengths and resilience.

Engage in Critical Reflection: Regularly ask yourself questions that challenge your beliefs. Are you living in alignment with your values? What stories are you allowing to define you?

Embrace the Messiness: Understand that your story may be complex and messy. Embrace the imperfections and recognize that they are part of your journey.

Awakening to your own story is a powerful and transformative process. By attuning to what is true for you, you can begin to change the narratives that shape your life. The work of Michael White and David Epston in Narrative Therapy can offer valuable insights into how we can explore our stories and identify unique outcomes that empower us.

As you embark on this journey, remember that your story is yours to tell. Embrace the messiness, engage in critical reflection, and allow yourself to re-author your narrative. The outcome may hold more value than you ever imagined, leading you to a life that is more authentic, fulfilling, and true to who you are.

So, do you feel called to awaken to your story? The journey begins with you.

Redefining the people that have walked with us

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I have been talking about this subject the last few blogs and although some folks use a very narrow definition of the word ancestor, I use the word as an indicator of legacy and interconnections. The ancestors are elders who pour their lives into the community and family as a testament of love and commitment. They live and die well, and when they transition, hopefully they are lucky enough to do so in full connection with an engaged community. We believe they then dwell in the spaces carved out by our spiritual and cultural expectations. They may be in another life dimension, but they connect with us in dreams, in memories, and in stories.

I want to take this  profound perspective a little further, inspired by one of my favorite authors, Barbara Holmes, which got me thinking about my own journey with people from the past. How do I define an ancestor? Must they be people directly related to me? Do they have to be individuals I knew personally? And how have these people, whether known or unknown, helped me on my own journey?

For some, the idea that our ancestors are with us right now might seem a bit mystical or “woo woo.” However, the concept of epigenetics offers a fascinating scientific perspective on how the experiences of our ancestors can influence us today. Epigenetic’s is the study of changes in organisms caused by modification of gene expression rather than alteration of the genetic code itself. While I do not know what all of it means it does suggests that the life experiences of our ancestors, such as trauma or triumph, can leave a biological imprint on future generations. This means that the legacy of our ancestors is not just a spiritual or cultural phenomenon but also a biological one.

Historically, many cultures have revered their ancestors, believing that they continue to play an active role in the lives of the living. In ancient Egypt, for example, (taken in part from the book of the dead) the practice of ancestor worship was integral to their society. The Egyptians believed that the deceased could influence the fortunes of the living, and they often made offerings to their ancestors to ensure their favor. Similarly, in many African cultures, ancestors are seen as guardians and guides, providing wisdom and protection to their descendants.

In my own life, I have found that connecting with my ancestors, whether through family stories, historical research, or personal reflection, has been a source of strength and guidance. I remember sitting with my grandmother in the kitchen on Rosemont Ave right off of 7 mile in Detroit as she recounted tales of her parents and grandparents, having come from the French speaking areas of Canada,  painting vivid pictures of their lives and struggles. I did not know that some of my cousins were lumber jacks, I was very surprised to learn these stories were more than just family history; they were lessons in resilience, love, and perseverance.

But what about those ancestors we never knew personally? Can they still impact our lives? I believe they can. Consider the stories of historical figures who have inspired generations. Figures like Harriet Tubman, Mahatma Gandhi, and Nelson Mandela have become ancestors to us all, their legacies transcending bloodlines to touch the hearts and minds of people worldwide. Their courage and commitment to justice continue to inspire and guide us, much like the ancestors in our own families.

Have you ever tried talking with those who have gone before us? Whether they were people close to us or individuals we only read about on the front page of the family Bible, reaching out to our ancestors can be a powerful experience. This doesn’t necessarily mean holding a séance or engaging in spiritual rituals, although those practices have their place in many cultures. It can be as simple as reflecting on their lives, writing letters to them, or visiting places that were significant to them.

By doing this, we open ourselves to the wisdom and guidance they have to offer. We may find answers to questions we’ve been pondering or gain new perspectives on challenges we’re facing. Our ancestors, whether known or unknown, have walked paths similar to ours. If we ponder how they have faced adversity, celebrated triumphs, and navigated the complexities of life, we might get answers that have eluded us.. By connecting with them, we tap into a wellspring of experience and insight.

Moreover, acknowledging our ancestors helps us understand our place in the world. We are part of a continuum, a tapestry woven from the threads of countless lives. Each of us is a link in a chain that stretches back through time and will continue into the future. Recognizing this interconnectedness can be both humbling and empowering. It reminds us that we are never truly alone; we carry the hopes, dreams, and wisdom of those who came before us.

As I said on Fridays blog post, with today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to lose sight of our roots. We become so focused on the present and future that we forget the past. Yet, our ancestors are an integral part of who we are. They have shaped our identities, influenced our values, and laid the groundwork for the lives we lead today.

So, how do we honor our ancestors and keep their memories alive? One way is through storytelling. Sharing family stories, whether around the dinner table or in written form, ensures that the lessons and legacies of our ancestors are passed down to future generations. Engaging in cultural traditions and rituals can also help us maintain a connection with our roots. One of the things I am going to start doing is writing down some of the stories I have heard to remind me and encourage me.

Another way is through personal reflection and meditation. Taking time to contemplate the lives of our ancestors, their struggles, and their triumphs can provide us with valuable insights and inspiration. We can also explore our family histories through research, uncovering hidden stories and connections that enrich our understanding of who we are.

Our ancestors are more than just names on a family tree. They are a living legacy, a source of strength and wisdom that continues to influence our lives. By embracing our connection with them, we honor their memory and ensure that their stories and lessons endure. Whether through spiritual, cultural, or scientific lenses, recognizing the impact of our ancestors enriches our lives and deepens our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.