The Power of Posture: Transforming the World Through Spiritual Alignment

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In this world that often feels fragmented and disconnected, the quest for harmony and understanding becomes even more pressing. We search for ways to bridge divides, foster empathy, and cultivate a sense of belonging. What if the key to this transformation lies not in grand gestures or sweeping reforms, but in something as simple and personal as our posture?

I would like to suggest that when we think of posture, we typically envision the physical—how we stand, sit, or move. Yet, posture is so much more than a physical stance; it is a way of being, a manner in which we present ourselves to the world. It encompasses wonder, empathy, openness, gratitude, compassion, hope, and empowerment. You can consciously aligin your physical and spiritual postures, you can create ripples of change that extend far beyond yourself.

The historical roots of how the concept of spirituality has evolved over centuries, originating from the Latin word *spiritualitas* in the 5th century. Initially, it referred to spiritual conduct and devoutness, but over time, it has come to signify an inner, personal spiritual life. This evolution mirrors the way our understanding of posture has expanded beyond the physical to include the spiritual and emotional dimensions.

In the early days, spirituality was closely tied to physical expressions—kneeling in humility, raising hands in praise, or sitting in meditation. These postures were not mere rituals; they were profound expressions of one’s inner state and alignment with a higher power. Today, as we seek to reconnect with the essence of spirituality, we can draw inspiration from these ancient practices, recognizing the deep connection between our physical and spiritual selves.

 

Our physical posture is our reflection to the world and often serves as a nonverbal communication of our internal spiritual/emotional  states. Consider the act of kneeling, which conveys humility and reverence, or the lifting of hands, symbolizing joy and praise. These gestures are more than symbolic; they are powerful expressions of our spiritual alignment to ourselves and world around us.

When we sit with closed-off postures, such as folded arms, we may be signalling a lack of engagement or a guarded heart. Conversely, an open and upright posture can reflect a readiness to embrace new experiences and connect with others. By becoming aware of our physical postures, we can cultivate a deeper understanding of our spiritual attitudes and intentions.

 

The relationship between posture and spirituality is bidirectional. Just as our spiritual mindset can influence our physical posture, so too can our physical stance impact our spiritual experiences. This mind-body connection is a powerful tool for enhancing our spiritual practices.

Remember that what some people call “soul” and others call “energy” is the essence that flows through us. our “isness” if you will. what makes us, us. without it we are not here. And that essence is what we might be calling spiritual or our true nature. More on this concept in later blogs.

Taking an upright posture, for example, allows for better breathing and energy flow, supporting spiritual focus and clarity. Ritualistic body postures, such as bowing or prostrating, can facilitate a deeper spiritual connection, anchoring our beliefs and practices in the body. By consciously adopting postures that align with our spiritual intentions, we can create a more holistic and embodied spiritual/emotional experience.

Our physical postures also have profound psychological effects, influencing our emotions and mental states during spiritual practice. Downcast or constrictive postures may evoke feelings of humility and introspection, while upright or expansive postures can inspire confidence, praise, and a sense of empowerment.

By experimenting with different postures, we can explore the psychological and emotional dimensions of our spirituality and emotions. This exploration can lead to greater self-awareness and a deeper connection with our inner selves, our isness, fostering a sense of peace and fulfillment.

Empowerment is a key aspect of both posture and spirituality. When we stand tall and open, we project confidence and strength, embodying our spiritual identity. This empowerment extends beyond the individual, influencing our interactions with others and our ability to effect positive change in the world.

By embracing postures that reflect empowerment, we can inspire others to do the same. Our physical stance becomes a beacon of hope and possibility, encouraging those around us to stand tall in their own spiritual journeys. In this way, posture becomes a powerful tool for creating a more harmonious and compassionate world.

Gratitude and compassion are integral to both posture and spirituality. When we adopt a posture of gratitude, we open ourselves to the abundance of life, recognizing the beauty and blessings that surround us. This openness fosters a sense of connection and belonging, nurturing our relationships with others and the world.

Similarly, a posture of compassion invites us to extend kindness and understanding to ourselves and others. By embodying compassion in our physical stance, we create a space for healing and reconciliation, bridging divides and fostering unity.

In a world that often feels divided and disconnected, the power of posture offers a simple yet profound path to transformation. By aligning our physical and spiritual postures, we can cultivate wonder, empathy, openness, gratitude, compassion, hope, and empowerment. These qualities become the foundation for a more harmonious and compassionate world.

As we embark on this journey of alignment, let us remember that change begins with us. By consciously choosing our postures, we can create ripples of change that extend far beyond ourselves, inspiring others to join us in the quest for a better world. Together, we can stand tall, embodying the values and virtues that will guide us toward a brighter future.

Awaken to Your Story: Attuning to Your Narrative

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Do you feel that inner voice calling you to awaken to your own story? Perhaps it whispers to you amidst the chaos of daily life, urging you to sift through the messiness of your experiences. In a world saturated with stories—some uplifting, others disheartening—how do we navigate our own narrative? How do we transform the tales we tell ourselves into something more empowering?

In this blog, I would like to explore the concept of ATTUNING to what is true for you, drawing on some of the transformative work of Michael White and David Epston in Narrative Therapy. We will delve into the importance of critical thinking, critical feeling, and critical spiritual reflection, and how these practices can help us change the narratives we live by.

Every day, there is a call to awaken, (yes it is true) and since we are bombarded with stories—news headlines, social media posts, and of course the narratives of those around us, we may miss the call. These stories shape our perceptions, ideas and influence our beliefs about ourselves and the world. But amidst this cacophony of noise, do we take the time to listen to our own story?

The first step in this journey is recognizing that you have a story worth telling. It’s easy to feel lost in the noise, but your experiences, no matter how tangled or messy, are valid. They are the threads that weave the fabric of your identity.

To truly awaken to your story, you must engage in critical thinking, critical feeling, and critical spiritual reflection. This means being fearless in asking yourself the right questions about your life. Are you living in alignment with your values? Are you allowing external narratives to dictate your self-worth? Do you go along with the flow of information because it is much easier than “thinking”?

For instance, consider a person who has faced significant challenges in their career or life. They may feel defined by their failures, believing that they are not capable of success. However, through critical reflection, they can begin to identify moments of resilience and growth. Perhaps they overcame a difficult project or received positive feedback from a colleague. These “unique outcomes” can serve as powerful reminders that their narrative is not solely defined by setbacks. In fact the pain of a setback might just be like shedding skin that is to small for this next part of your like.

Ahhh now comes a part I love, attuning to your own story involves listening closely to your experiences and emotions. It requires a willingness to explore the depths of your inner narrative, even the uncomfortable parts. This is where the work of Michael White and David Epston becomes particularly relevant. Their approach emphasizes the importance of attuned listening and the exploration of life stories to identify unique outcomes that contradict problem-saturated narratives

Here is an example to put it in to context, imagine a woman named Sarah who has always struggled with feelings of inadequacy. She often compares herself to others, believing she falls short in her personal and professional life. This narrative has become so ingrained that it affects her relationships and self-esteem. Through the process of attuning to her story, Sarah begins to reflect on her experiences. She recalls a time when she successfully led a team project, receiving praise for her leadership skills. By focusing on this unique outcome for her, Sarah can start to re-author her narrative. Instead of seeing herself as inadequate, she begins to recognize her strengths and capabilities.

This reframing holds immense value. It empowers Sarah to approach future challenges with a renewed sense of confidence, allowing her to break free from the constraints of her previous narrative.

There is value in identifying unique outcomes that is a cornerstone of Narrative Therapy. These moments serve as evidence that contradicts the dominant, problem-saturated narratives we often tell ourselves. By focusing on these positive experiences, we can begin to shift our perspective and create a more empowering story

Please consider another example: a young man named Alex who has always felt overshadowed by his siblings. He believes he is the “black sheep” of the family, struggling to find his place. However, through attuned listening and reflection, Alex recalls a time when he pursued a passion for art, receiving recognition for his talent in a local exhibition. This unique outcome challenges his narrative of being unworthy or unaccomplished. By embracing this moment, Alex can begin to see himself as an individual with unique gifts and contributions. This shift not only enhances his self-esteem but also allows him to engage more authentically with his family and community.

Using myself as an example, I grew up with Dyslexia and ADHD together at a time when most professionals did not know what to do with this behavior. The outside noise in the names I was called, the looks I endured, and the extream loneliness was soul crushing. I truly felt that I was worth, nothing, absolutely nothing. But I had one teacher that saw something in me and suggested a cooking program that I started in 10th grade. It changed my life! I saw that I had value and started to tune out the noise that was destructive and paid attention to the noise that was helping me grow.  I eventually started the journey that took me to years of training in the social practices like spiritual direction and coaching.  It answered my questions and helped me to shine a light, illuminating that path that others might want to take.

So, here are a few of my thought in how we can change the narratives we tell ourselves? It begins with a commitment to attune to our own stories. Here are some practical steps to help you on this journey:

 

Practice Attuned Listening: Set aside time to reflect on your experiences. Write in a journal or speak to a trusted friend or therapist who can listen without judgment.

Identify Unique Outcomes: Look for moments in your life that contradict your dominant narrative. What achievements, strengths, or positive experiences can you highlight?

Re-author Your Story: Use the unique outcomes you’ve identified to reframe your narrative. Instead of focusing on limitations, emphasize your strengths and resilience.

Engage in Critical Reflection: Regularly ask yourself questions that challenge your beliefs. Are you living in alignment with your values? What stories are you allowing to define you?

Embrace the Messiness: Understand that your story may be complex and messy. Embrace the imperfections and recognize that they are part of your journey.

Awakening to your own story is a powerful and transformative process. By attuning to what is true for you, you can begin to change the narratives that shape your life. The work of Michael White and David Epston in Narrative Therapy can offer valuable insights into how we can explore our stories and identify unique outcomes that empower us.

As you embark on this journey, remember that your story is yours to tell. Embrace the messiness, engage in critical reflection, and allow yourself to re-author your narrative. The outcome may hold more value than you ever imagined, leading you to a life that is more authentic, fulfilling, and true to who you are.

So, do you feel called to awaken to your story? The journey begins with you.

The Uncomfortable Truth of Racism: A Reflection Inspired by Mary Elizabeth Moore

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The Uncomfortable Truth of Racism: A Reflection Inspired by Mary Elizabeth Moore

In a world that often feels divided, the stories we share can serve as bridges to understanding and healing. Today, I want to introduce you to a remarkable woman Lynette and I met at the Academy for Spiritual Formation in Nebraska: Mary Elizabeth Moore. A master educator, prolific writer, and speaker, Mary Elizabeths’s work in religious education, process theology, and practical theology is deeply rooted in a commitment to repair the world. To explore the full depth of her contributions, you can visit her [bio here](https://www.biola.edu/talbot/ce20/database/mary-elizabeth-moore).

The real reason for this blog, however, is to delve into a powerful poem that Mary Elizabeth wrote, titled “I Confess.” This poem is not just a reflection of her personal experiences; it is a mirror held up to society, challenging us to confront the uncomfortable truths about racism and privilege.

I Confess

Growing up with Mary shaped me

As a person far more sensitive

Then I would have otherwise been,

A child who could love and giggle,

And dash quietly to bed

When my parents came home early.

 

My world taught me

that Mary’s Blackness

was less than my whiteness

though I always knew

she was better than me.

 

The racist structures

We enacted were strengthened

By my family’s participation

I did not condemn

Those structures with anything more

Then a few probing questions

For a few minutes at a time,

Even as I prayed every night,

“God bless Mama and Daddy

And Mary and me.”

 

White supremacy

Shaped me in my very own home,

Yet I whole-heartedly loved Mary

And was powerfully shaped by her love

And by the deep Black culture

She taught me to value

As if it were my own.

 

My white-privilege perspectives

Emerged in the same childhood

That taught me to critique them,

 

slowly, oh so slowly

In my youth, but bursting

Ever more boldly as I grew

 

though I have not

And never will

Be free of its taint.

This poem resonates deeply with me, as it evokes memories of my own upbringing in Detroit, where I witnessed firsthand the destructive power of hate and judgment. The raw honesty in Mary Elizabeth’s words forces us to confront the uncomfortable realities of our pasts and the systems that have shaped our identities.

Mary Elizabeth’s poem encapsulates the struggle of recognizing privilege while grappling with the love and relationships that exist within a racially charged environment. It highlights the paradox of loving someone from a marginalized community while simultaneously benefiting from a system that devalues their existence. This duality is a painful truth that many of us must face.

As I reflect on my own experiences, I am reminded of the countless times I have seen the impact of racism on families, individuals, and communities. The scars left by systemic oppression run deep, and they are often invisible to those who do not experience them. Mary Elizabeth’s poem serves as a reminder that acknowledging our privilege is not enough; we must actively work to dismantle the structures that perpetuate inequality.

The Journey Toward Understanding

Mary Elizabeth’s  journey of self-awareness and growth is a testament to the power of reflection and education. It is a reminder that the path toward understanding is often slow and filled with discomfort. As she writes, “Slowly, oh so slowly / In my youth, but bursting / Ever more boldly as I grew.” This gradual awakening is something many of us can relate to, as we navigate our own journeys of understanding and kinship.

The discomfort that arises from confronting our biases and the reality of racism is a necessary part of this journey. It is through this discomfort that we can begin to challenge our preconceived notions and work toward a more equitable society. Mary Elizabeth’s poem encourages us to engage in difficult conversations, to ask probing questions, and to seek out the stories of those who have been marginalized.

As we reflect on the themes presented in Mary Elizabeth’s poem, we must ask ourselves: What will it take to look at one another without the taint of prejudice? How can we actively participate in the repair of our world? The answers to these questions lie in our willingness to listen, learn, and engage with the experiences of others.

We must commit to educating ourselves about the history and impact of racism, both in our communities and beyond. This includes amplifying the voices of those who have been silenced and advocating for policies that promote equity and justice. It requires us to confront our own biases and to hold ourselves accountable for our actions.

Mary Elizabeth Moore’s work and her poignant poem serve as a powerful reminder of the importance of empathy, understanding, and action. To explore more of her insights and contributions, consider reading her book, which you can find here..

So Much to Love, So Much to Lose Paperback – September 18, 2023 

by Mary Elizabeth Moore (Author)

If I were to conclude here, you might think that because Mary Elizabeth’s poem describes a meaningful relationship with a person of color that this is my focus for this blog, it is not!  But in a world that often feels divided, we have the power to bridge the gaps through understanding and compassion. Mary Elizabeth’s poem, “I Confess,” challenges us to confront our own biases and to recognize the impact of racism towards all people groups in our lives. It is a call to action, urging us to engage in the difficult work of dismantling systemic oppression and fostering a more inclusive society. And folks, you do not have to agree with other people groups to get along with them. Right?

Can we move forward, carrying the lessons from Mary Elizabeth’s experiences and the truths revealed in her poem inside of us? Because together, we can create a world where love and understanding triumph over hate and division. By committing to being agents of change, and working tirelessly to repair the wounds of our past and build a brighter future for all ……

we can began to heal.

Redefining the people that have walked with us

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I have been talking about this subject the last few blogs and although some folks use a very narrow definition of the word ancestor, I use the word as an indicator of legacy and interconnections. The ancestors are elders who pour their lives into the community and family as a testament of love and commitment. They live and die well, and when they transition, hopefully they are lucky enough to do so in full connection with an engaged community. We believe they then dwell in the spaces carved out by our spiritual and cultural expectations. They may be in another life dimension, but they connect with us in dreams, in memories, and in stories.

I want to take this  profound perspective a little further, inspired by one of my favorite authors, Barbara Holmes, which got me thinking about my own journey with people from the past. How do I define an ancestor? Must they be people directly related to me? Do they have to be individuals I knew personally? And how have these people, whether known or unknown, helped me on my own journey?

For some, the idea that our ancestors are with us right now might seem a bit mystical or “woo woo.” However, the concept of epigenetics offers a fascinating scientific perspective on how the experiences of our ancestors can influence us today. Epigenetic’s is the study of changes in organisms caused by modification of gene expression rather than alteration of the genetic code itself. While I do not know what all of it means it does suggests that the life experiences of our ancestors, such as trauma or triumph, can leave a biological imprint on future generations. This means that the legacy of our ancestors is not just a spiritual or cultural phenomenon but also a biological one.

Historically, many cultures have revered their ancestors, believing that they continue to play an active role in the lives of the living. In ancient Egypt, for example, (taken in part from the book of the dead) the practice of ancestor worship was integral to their society. The Egyptians believed that the deceased could influence the fortunes of the living, and they often made offerings to their ancestors to ensure their favor. Similarly, in many African cultures, ancestors are seen as guardians and guides, providing wisdom and protection to their descendants.

In my own life, I have found that connecting with my ancestors, whether through family stories, historical research, or personal reflection, has been a source of strength and guidance. I remember sitting with my grandmother in the kitchen on Rosemont Ave right off of 7 mile in Detroit as she recounted tales of her parents and grandparents, having come from the French speaking areas of Canada,  painting vivid pictures of their lives and struggles. I did not know that some of my cousins were lumber jacks, I was very surprised to learn these stories were more than just family history; they were lessons in resilience, love, and perseverance.

But what about those ancestors we never knew personally? Can they still impact our lives? I believe they can. Consider the stories of historical figures who have inspired generations. Figures like Harriet Tubman, Mahatma Gandhi, and Nelson Mandela have become ancestors to us all, their legacies transcending bloodlines to touch the hearts and minds of people worldwide. Their courage and commitment to justice continue to inspire and guide us, much like the ancestors in our own families.

Have you ever tried talking with those who have gone before us? Whether they were people close to us or individuals we only read about on the front page of the family Bible, reaching out to our ancestors can be a powerful experience. This doesn’t necessarily mean holding a séance or engaging in spiritual rituals, although those practices have their place in many cultures. It can be as simple as reflecting on their lives, writing letters to them, or visiting places that were significant to them.

By doing this, we open ourselves to the wisdom and guidance they have to offer. We may find answers to questions we’ve been pondering or gain new perspectives on challenges we’re facing. Our ancestors, whether known or unknown, have walked paths similar to ours. If we ponder how they have faced adversity, celebrated triumphs, and navigated the complexities of life, we might get answers that have eluded us.. By connecting with them, we tap into a wellspring of experience and insight.

Moreover, acknowledging our ancestors helps us understand our place in the world. We are part of a continuum, a tapestry woven from the threads of countless lives. Each of us is a link in a chain that stretches back through time and will continue into the future. Recognizing this interconnectedness can be both humbling and empowering. It reminds us that we are never truly alone; we carry the hopes, dreams, and wisdom of those who came before us.

As I said on Fridays blog post, with today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to lose sight of our roots. We become so focused on the present and future that we forget the past. Yet, our ancestors are an integral part of who we are. They have shaped our identities, influenced our values, and laid the groundwork for the lives we lead today.

So, how do we honor our ancestors and keep their memories alive? One way is through storytelling. Sharing family stories, whether around the dinner table or in written form, ensures that the lessons and legacies of our ancestors are passed down to future generations. Engaging in cultural traditions and rituals can also help us maintain a connection with our roots. One of the things I am going to start doing is writing down some of the stories I have heard to remind me and encourage me.

Another way is through personal reflection and meditation. Taking time to contemplate the lives of our ancestors, their struggles, and their triumphs can provide us with valuable insights and inspiration. We can also explore our family histories through research, uncovering hidden stories and connections that enrich our understanding of who we are.

Our ancestors are more than just names on a family tree. They are a living legacy, a source of strength and wisdom that continues to influence our lives. By embracing our connection with them, we honor their memory and ensure that their stories and lessons endure. Whether through spiritual, cultural, or scientific lenses, recognizing the impact of our ancestors enriches our lives and deepens our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Embracing Our Ancestors: A Living Legacy of Strength

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In the confusion that many of us find ourselves in modern life, it’s easy to become disconnected from the past. We often find ourselves so focused on the present and the future that we forget to look back and appreciate the rich tapestry of history that has shaped us. Yet, as Steven Charleston, Choctaw elder and retired Episcopal bishop, points out, our ancestors are not just figures of the past; they are a living source of strength and wisdom that can guide us through the challenges we face today.

Charleston’s words remind us that the struggles we encounter are not unique to our time. Our ancestors faced their own battles—fear of illness, heartbreak, family conflicts, and the looming threat of war. They lived in a world where corrupt politicians held power and natural disasters struck without warning. Despite these challenges, they persevered, driven by love, faith, and an unwavering determination to carry on. You can know this to be true, as you are here now, smile.

This resilience is a testament to the human spirit. Our ancestors walked through life’s storms with courage and grace, refusing to succumb to despair. They found ways to navigate their grief and struggles, drawing strength from their communities and their beliefs. Their ability to endure and overcome is a powerful reminder that we, too, can rise above our difficulties. But, please make no mistake, they were not always happy, they had lives just like ours.

In many cultures, honoring the ancestors is not just a quaint tradition but a vital part of daily life. It is a way of acknowledging the sacrifices and achievements of those who came before us, recognizing that their experiences and wisdom continue to shape our lives. By connecting with our ancestral roots, we gain a deeper understanding of who we are and where we come from. Consider that many people are very interested in the genealogy websites that track your roots. What can we find out about those investigations?

I wanted to see where I came from so my brother and I with our families traveled to the upper peninsula of Michigan to a little mining town called Copper Harbor. We found graves from when the area was first settled after the copper ore was found. We stopped to see the frame homes that the boards which made up the outside skin of the home. It seemed to lack the ability to form a seal to keep the frigid wind out. With no insulation, and a small potbellied stove to warm that 3 room home. Snow from lake effect sometimes was 345 inches a year. We then went down into the mines where the copper was pulled out of the earth with little more than hand tools in the beginning. I had no idea of those roots of my heritage; I was stunned into silence. The air closed around me as I thought thinking, feeling, grateful for the heritage that was my past. I knew that those miners, and the women who supported them were all stronger than I ever understood and that strength was in my blood, yes, in my blood and I know now, without a doubt that I have the strength to live my life on my terms. Thank you, Ancestors!

The stories of our ancestors are woven into the fabric of our identities. They are the foundation upon which we build our lives, providing us with a sense of belonging and continuity. When we take the time to learn about their lives, we discover the values and lessons that have been passed down through generations. These stories offer us guidance and inspiration, helping us to navigate our own paths with confidence and purpose.

With this knowledge I am proud to talk about where I came from and what it means to be a Vaive.

In today’s fast-paced world, it can be challenging to find the time to reflect on our heritage. However, doing so can be incredibly rewarding. By exploring our family histories, we can uncover the rich tapestry of experiences that have shaped our families and communities. We can learn about the triumphs and trials of our ancestors, gaining insight into the resilience and strength that have been passed down to us.

One way to connect with our ancestors is through storytelling. Sharing stories about our family’s past can be a powerful way to keep their memories alive and to pass on their wisdom to future generations. These stories can be shared around the dinner table, at family gatherings, or through written accounts that can be preserved for posterity. By keeping these stories alive, we ensure that the legacy of our ancestors continues to inspire and guide us.

Did you know that most things we read from long ago were first passed along to each generation as a story told, most often around tables while eating? That narrative is the most engaging way to share information.

Another way to honor our ancestors is by participating in cultural traditions and rituals. Many cultures have specific practices that are designed to honor and remember those who have passed on. These rituals can provide a sense of connection and continuity, linking us to our past and reminding us of the enduring strength of our heritage. Whether it’s lighting a candle in memory of a loved one, participating in a traditional ceremony, or simply taking a moment to reflect on the lives of those who came before us, these practices can be a meaningful way to honor our ancestors.

In addition to personal reflection and storytelling, we can also draw inspiration from the broader historical context in which our ancestors lived. By studying history, we can gain a deeper understanding of the challenges and triumphs that shaped their lives. This knowledge can provide us with valuable insights into the resilience and determination that enabled them to overcome adversity. It can also help us to appreciate the progress that has been made over time and to recognize the ongoing struggles that we must continue to address.

As we reflect on the legacy of our ancestors, it’s important to remember that their strength and resilience are not just relics of the past. They are qualities that we can cultivate in our own lives. By embracing the lessons of our ancestors, we can find the courage and determination to face our own challenges with grace and resolve. We can draw on their wisdom to navigate the complexities of modern life, finding hope and inspiration in their enduring spirit.

Like my brother and I going up to Copper Harbor we found that our ancestors are a living source of strength and wisdom that can guide us through the challenges of today. By honoring their legacy, we were able to see a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. We can draw inspiration from their resilience and determination, finding the courage to face our own struggles with hope and faith. As we navigate the complexities of modern life, let us remember the enduring spirit of our ancestors and the lessons they have to offer. Together, we can carry their legacy forward, finding strength in their timeless wisdom.

Richard Rohr’s, Order, Disorder and then Reorder

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The beautiful sun-drenched landscapes of New Mexico provided a fitting backdrop for the Richard Rohr Conference, a gathering that promised not just intellectual engagement but a journey into the depths of the human/spirit connection. As all of us settled into our seats, the air was buzzing with anticipation, a collective curiosity about the transformative insights that Father Richard Rohr and the rest of the faculty would share. Their teachings, deeply rooted in spirituality and personal growth, have long been a beacon for those seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and the world around them using what God has in store.

At the heart of the conference was a profound exploration of the spiritual journey through the stages of Order, Disorder, and Reorder. I frankly did not know that I have been going through this on a regular basis and Father Richard, with his characteristic warmth and wisdom, guided us/me through these stages, each representing a pivotal phase in our spiritual evolution. Then the faculty took it much deeper with revisioning our spiritual walk and what Christianity could mean. I have been on this journey a long time and those that know Lynette and I know that we continue to learn. It is not just a hobby but a passion to understand and then to use that information to help where we are called to help. Let’s start with Order.

The journey always begins with Order, a stage where we feel enveloped in a sense of innocence and safety. It’s a time when everything seems right with the world, this can happen at different times in our life, and we are cradled in the comforting arms of certainty. This “first naiveté” is a beautiful phase, where the world appears as a harmonious tapestry, and we are blissfully unaware of the complexities that lie beneath the surface. It’s a stage that not everyone experiences, but for those who do, it is a time of peace and simplicity. In this phase, our beliefs and values are often inherited from our families and communities, providing a framework that helps us make sense of the world. We find solace in the familiar routines and traditions that shape our daily lives. May I also say that those that have not experienced this phase are looking for it and what it means.

However, life, in its unpredictable nature, often propels us into the next stage: Disorder. I have lived a good deal of my life in this stage and those of you that have also lived here know exactly what I mean. This is where the real challenge begins. As Father Richard eloquently described, Disorder is the sacred, open space where we are led out of our comfort zones. It feels like suffering because it requires us to let go of the familiar, to release our grip on the structures and beliefs that once provided us with stability. In this stage, part of us must die if we are ever to grow larger. It’s a painful yet necessary process, akin to the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly. The cocoon of Order must be shed for the wings of Reorder to emerge. This stage may even be called a rebirth.

Disorder can manifest in various forms—personal crises, loss, or profound disillusionment, even maybe our spiritual community. It is during these times that we are forced to confront the limitations of our previous understanding. The certainty that once anchored us begins to crumble, leaving us adrift in a sea of uncertainty. Yet, it is in this very uncertainty, this liminal space, (you need to click on the link for liminal space and not miss the meaning) that the seeds of transformation are sown. As we grapple with the chaos, we begin to question, to seek, and to explore new perspectives. This stage, though tumultuous, is a crucible for growth, urging us to expand our horizons and embrace the unknown.

As we navigate through the tumultuous waters of Disorder, we hopefully and eventually find ourselves at the threshold ofReorder. This stage is a revelation, a homecoming to our true selves. Here, we discover an inner authority, personal agency, a profound knowing that transcends logic and common sense. It’s a realization that everything is okay because God is present in every moment, no matter what happens. In Reorder, nothing needs to be excluded. We learn to live and work with all of it because, as Father Richard beautifully articulated, God can. For some unbelievable reason, everything belongs.

Reorder is not about returning to the simplicity of Order but about integrating the lessons learned during Disorder. It is a synthesis of the old and the new, a harmonious blend of past experiences and newfound wisdom. In this stage, we develop a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. We come to appreciate the interconnectedness of all things and recognize that every experience, whether joyful or painful, contributes to our growth. This stage invites us to live with authenticity and compassion, embracing the full spectrum of human experience. Can you think of a time that you have seen this happening in your own life?

This concept of “everything belongs” is both radical and liberating. It challenges us to embrace the entirety of our experiences, the joys and the sorrows, the successes and the failures. In doing so, we come to understand that every moment, every encounter, is imbued with divine significance. It’s a perspective that invites us to see the world through a lens of compassion, acceptance and love, to recognize the interconnectedness of all things. In future blogs I will be talking about duality and non-duality and that it means to us.

This amazing conference was more than just a series of lectures; it was an invitation to embark on a transformative journey. We all left with a renewed sense of purpose, inspired to embrace the stages of Order, Disorder, and Reorder and then “revision what could be” in a divine sense, with-in their own lives. Father Richard’s teachings and those of the faculty, resonated deeply, offering a roadmap for navigating the complexities of being human with grace and resilience and faith.

As the conference ended, the sun was coming to a position right above us shining a bright light the New Mexico landscape and our spirits. It was a fitting day filled with profound insights and spiritual awakening. The journey through Order, Disorder, and Reorder towards revisioning is not a linear path but a cyclical one, a continuous dance of growth and transformation. And as we left the conference, we carried with us the wisdom that everything belongs, a truth that will guide us on our journey long after the echoes of Father Richard’s and the faculty’s words have faded.

In reflecting on the conference, it becomes clear that these stages are not merely abstract concepts but lived experiences that shape our lives. They remind us of that growth often requires us to step into the unknown, to embrace the discomfort of change, and to trust in the unfolding of our journey. As we move through these stages, we are called to cultivate a spirit of openness and curiosity, to remain receptive to the lessons that each stage has to offer.

The teachings of the wisdom teachers, serve as a guiding light, illuminating the path toward a more integrated and authentic existence. They encourage us to embrace the paradoxes of life, to find beauty during chaos, and to trust in the divine presence that permeates every aspect of our being. In doing so, we come to realize that the journey itself is the destination, and that every step, no matter how challenging, is an integral part of our spiritual evolution.

In closing this blog for today, may we carry with us the wisdom of Order, Disorder, and Reorder, allowing it to inform and inspire our lives. May we find the courage to embrace the unknown, the resilience to navigate the challenges, and the grace to accept that everything belongs. In this way, we honor the teachings of all the wisdom teachers that have come before, while embarking on a path of transformation and renewal, guided by the light of love and wisdom.