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Understand your growing edge

“Look well to the growing edge. All around us worlds are dying and new worlds are being born; all around us life is dying and life is being born. The fruit ripens on the tree, the roots are silently at work in the darkness of the earth against a time when there shall be new leaves, fresh blossoms, green fruit. Such is the growing edge. Look well to the growing edge.”

Howard Thurman

There are moments when the world around us feels raw and divided, when headlines and conversations seem to pull us apart rather than bring us together. In those moments I return to Howard Thurman’s words and find an invitation: to look for the small, persistent beginnings — the growing edge — where life quietly insists on renewal. Thurman’s lines are not a denial of loss; they are a map of hope. They remind us that endings and births travel side by side, that even in the shadow of decay there is an unseen labor preparing the next season.

Think of the growing edge as the slender green that appears on a branch after winter, or the first breath that follows exhaustion. As Thurman says, it is “the extra breath from the exhausted lung, the one more thing to try when all else has failed.” It is the steady, stubborn impulse that keeps us trying, learning, and reaching for what is better. This impulse is not grandiose or flashy; often it is quiet and humble — a neighbor listening, a teacher staying late, a community garden taking root in a vacant lot. Those acts, multiplied, become the scaffolding for something new.

 

Our world today bears many fractures — political rancor, social pain, environmental strain. Yet if we look only at what is breaking, we miss the synchronous birth of possibility. “All around us life is dying and life is being born.” If we pay attention to the growing edge, we can choose to live in alignment with that emergence. That doesn’t mean ignoring difficulty. It means placing our energy where life is being renewed: toward understanding, toward repair, toward building structures that invite flourishing rather than entrenching harm.

How do we tend the growing edge in the life we live? First, by embracing change instead of fearing it. Change is the canvas where new worlds are painted. Thurman’s vision encourages us to accept transformation as natural and necessary — to learn, adapt, and be curious about new perspectives. This openness creates the possibility of connection where division once stood.

Second, by intentionally looking for the positive developments that flicker into being. When we “look well to the growing edge,” we train our attention on those emerging efforts that point toward life: grassroots movements organizing for justice, teachers designing classrooms that foster belonging, neighbors organizing to protect a local river. These are the places where hope is not theoretical but practical. Thurman calls this “the upward reach of life when weariness closes in upon all endeavor.” Even a single upward reach can change the direction of a weary heart.

Third, by cultivating resilience. The growing edge is “the basis of hope” because it gives us evidence that renewal is possible. When we recognize obstacles as opportunities to grow, we reclaim agency. Speaking truth, showing up for others, and insisting on dignity in daily choices are acts that compound. They make us stronger and they signal to others that building anew is worth the struggle.

Fourth, by engaging in meaningful dialogue. When “times are out of joint and men have lost their reason,” Thurman suggests the incentive to carry on lives in relation, in listening and in sharing. Conversation done with patience and empathy can soften hardened positions and reveal common aims. It’s not always easy; it requires humility and courage to speak and to listen. But such exchanges often become the quiet work of the roots, preparing fertile ground for new leaves and blossoms.

I have to say without a shadow of a doubt there have been times in my life where I did not want to “engage in meaningful dialogue”. I even went so far as to decry the impulse to do so. How can you expect me to talk with “this person” for what they are doing around them?

It is HARD. It is WORTH IT!

Finally, by nurturing new leaders and ideas. “The birth of a child — life’s most dramatic answer to death” points to the profound power of beginnings. Supporting those who are starting — young people, marginalized voices, community organizers — replenishes our collective capacity to imagine and build alternatives. Their insights are often fresh because they are less encumbered by the constraints of what has always been.

History and daily life offer countless examples of the growing edge in motion: movements that transformed societies, technologies that reconnected people across distances, community responses to climate crises that turned despair into action. These all began as something small and persistent — a few people refusing to accept the finality of the old story.

There are challenges. Cynicism can blunt our sight; uncertainty can make us cling to familiar pain; idealism without grounding can falter. Thurman’s call — “Look well to the growing edge” — is precisely a remedy for these trials. It trains attention toward the life that insists on being born even in difficult soil.

So, when the world feels fractured, remember to look for the new leaves, the fresh blossoms, the quiet roots working underground. Tend to them when you find them. Join them when you can. In that practice, one extra breath at a time, we become participants in a larger turning — from fragmentation toward a renewed and shared life. Look well to the growing edge.

Folks, reading Howard Thurman is a life changing experience for those with eyes to see and ears to hear.

Peace and every good.

Desert Wisdom: Context is Everything

Reflecting on where we stand in life and the decisions, we make is not a luxury reserved for philosophers or the privileged; it is a practical necessity for anyone who shoulders responsibility—whether as a leader, a parent, a partner, or a friend. Every choice we make ripples outward: policies we endorse shape communities, the tone we set in our family’s shapes children’s emotional landscapes, and the way we respond to friends in crisis models what compassion looks like. When the pace of life accelerates and the noise of competing opinions grows louder, pausing to reflect helps us separate what is urgent from what is important. Reflection is the practice of stepping back long enough to see patterns, notice motivations, and weigh consequences. It gives us the mental and moral space to act with intention rather than reactivity, to lead with clarity rather than impulse, and to love with presence rather than distraction.

This capacity for reflective life is under strain in times of social, political, or spiritual disruption. Anxiety narrows our attention; polarization simplifies complex choices into binary demands; and scarcity—of resources, attention, or trust—pushes us toward short-term fixes instead of sustainable care. Yet precisely in such moments, reflection becomes more valuable. Leaders who cultivate a reflective habit are less prone to adopt popular but harmful policies; parents who slow down can respond rather than punish; friends who listen deeply become anchors when networks fray. Reflection is not passivity; it is a form of preparedness: an inner readiness that allows us to respond to external turbulence with steadiness, wisdom, and, crucially, hope.

There is deep, practical help available if we look to the contemplative practices of earlier generations. The desert mothers and fathers—Christian ascetics who retreated into the deserts of fourth- and fifth-century Egypt, Palestine, and Syria—faced their own forms of upheaval. Their world was marked by the collapse of old political certainties, shifting religious allegiances, economic insecurity, and the daily challenge of survival in a harsh landscape. Communities and institutions that once felt permanently secure were in flux. In that context, these seekers turned inward, developing practices designed to anchor the heart and clarify the mind: silence, disciplined prayer or attention, fasting, communal counsel, and a rigorous form of discernment aimed at identifying the motives behind action.

It’s easy to caricature the desert fathers and mothers as isolated oddities, but their practices emerged from and responded to real social stress. Solitude was a tool to remove the cacophony of public life and to make the inner life audible; silence and repetitive prayer shaped attention and broke cycles of reactivity; accountability to a spiritual community protected against spiritual pride and isolation. Their teachings were practical: notice the impulse before you act, name the fear or desire energizing you, seek counsel, and cultivate a steady interior ground that is not won by control but by clarity. In other words, their wisdom was not about withdrawing from the world out of despair but about preparing oneself to engage the world more faithfully.

Why should these ancient practices matter to us now? Because the human heart and the social dynamics that shape it have not changed as much as our technologies have. Fear, greed, ambition, envy, compassion, and love still govern behavior. Practices that train attention and regulate emotion speak to perennial human conditions. Integrating contemplative habits into modern life can provide two immediate benefits: First, they reduce reactivity and promote clearer decision-making. When leaders or family members cultivate habits of silence and discernment—simple practices such as pausing before responding, taking structured times for quiet reflection, or keeping a short journal of motivations—their choices are more likely to reflect long-term values than immediate pressure. This leads to steadier policies, more thoughtful parenting, and deeper friendships.

Second, these practices cultivate an inner reservoir of hope. Hope is not the same as optimism; it is a stable belief in the possibility of good action and transformation even when outcomes are uncertain. The desert wisdom teaches that hope is best sustained not by constant positive thinking but by disciplined attention to what is true and actionable in the present moment. Regular practices that calm the nervous system and sharpen moral perception—breath-focused attention, brief daily silence, or communal sharing of struggles—create psychological space where hope can grow. When we know how to listen to ourselves and to each other, despair loses its hold and the imagination for constructive possibility widens.

Translating these practices into contemporary contexts does not require cloistering oneself in a cave. Two specific, accessible ways to integrate ancient practices into modern life are particularly practical. First, establish micro-practices of silence and reflection embedded in daily routines. This could be a three- to five-minute pause at the start or end of the day, a brief breath-counting exercise before meetings, or a ritual of asking two questions before important decisions: “What am I afraid of right now?” and “What good do I most want to preserve or bring about?” These small practices act like cognitive reset buttons, allowing emotions to settle and values to guide choices.

Second, create structures of communal discernment. The desert tradition emphasized accountability and counsel: individuals would bring their struggles to experienced guides and to a community for testing and correction. In the modern setting, this might look like regular peer check-ins among leaders, family councils where major decisions are discussed slowly and with listening rules, or small groups of friends committed to honest feedback. Such structures slow decision-making constructively, expose hidden biases or blind spots, and distribute responsibility in ways that reduce burnout and improve wisdom. They also restore a sense of shared purpose and mutual support that counters the isolating effects of crisis.

Context matters: the desert mothers and fathers were responding to a world in transition—political empires shifting, communities redefining themselves, and everyday life marked by scarcity and vulnerability. Their practices were adaptive responses to conditions of uncertainty. They learned to live with less reliance on external securities and more on cultivated internal resources: discernment that distinguished helpful counsel from harmful flattery, silence that tempered projection and rumor, and community that corrected extremes of pride or despair. In short, their practices were designed to produce people who could act faithfully and resiliently when the external world was unreliable.

When we tie that ancient context to our own, the hopefulness becomes practical rather than sentimental. The same practices that helped people withstand the dislocations of their time can be adapted to ours, not by mimicking every ancient behavior but by translating the underlying principles: create space for reflection, practice disciplined attention, seek accountable community, and orient actions toward the common good rather than narrow expediency. By doing so we develop inner resources that make us less dependent on the immediate approval of the crowd and more able to pursue long-term flourishing.

If you are reading this and feeling the strain of present uncertainties, know that hope can be cultivated. Start small: choose one micro-practice of silence or reflection to try daily for two weeks. Invite one or two trusted people into a monthly conversation where you ask each other honest questions and hold one another accountable for decisions. Notice how these practices change not only your inner tone but the quality of your actions—decisions made with care, responses delivered with compassion, and leadership grounded in discernment rather than fear. Over time, these habits compound. They rebuild trust inwardly and outwardly, making it possible to navigate disruption with steadiness rather than fracture.

Ancient wisdom and present-day insight are not opposed; they are complementary. The desert mothers and fathers offer tested methods for cultivating inner freedom and clarity; contemporary psychology and organizational practices provide ways to embed those methods in modern life effectively. Together they offer a path not of retreat from the world, but of preparation for loving and courageous engagement with it. In a time that tempts us toward panic or paralysis, disciplined reflection, communal discernment, and small faithful practices can sustain hope and enable action that lasts.

Embracing Our Ancestors: A Living Legacy of Strength

In the confusion that many of us find ourselves in modern life, it’s easy to become disconnected from the past. We often find ourselves so focused on the present and the future that we forget to look back and appreciate the rich tapestry of history that has shaped us. Yet, as Steven Charleston, Choctaw elder and retired Episcopal bishop, points out, our ancestors are not just figures of the past; they are a living source of strength and wisdom that can guide us through the challenges we face today.

Charleston’s words remind us that the struggles we encounter are not unique to our time. Our ancestors faced their own battles—fear of illness, heartbreak, family conflicts, and the looming threat of war. They lived in a world where corrupt politicians held power and natural disasters struck without warning. Despite these challenges, they persevered, driven by love, faith, and an unwavering determination to carry on. You can know this to be true, as you are here now, smile.

This resilience is a testament to the human spirit. Our ancestors walked through life’s storms with courage and grace, refusing to succumb to despair. They found ways to navigate their grief and struggles, drawing strength from their communities and their beliefs. Their ability to endure and overcome is a powerful reminder that we, too, can rise above our difficulties. But, please make no mistake, they were not always happy, they had lives just like ours.

In many cultures, honoring the ancestors is not just a quaint tradition but a vital part of daily life. It is a way of acknowledging the sacrifices and achievements of those who came before us, recognizing that their experiences and wisdom continue to shape our lives. By connecting with our ancestral roots, we gain a deeper understanding of who we are and where we come from. Consider that many people are very interested in the genealogy websites that track your roots. What can we find out about those investigations?

I wanted to see where I came from so my brother and I with our families traveled to the upper peninsula of Michigan to a little mining town called Copper Harbor. We found graves from when the area was first settled after the copper ore was found. We stopped to see the frame homes that the boards which made up the outside skin of the home. It seemed to lack the ability to form a seal to keep the frigid wind out. With no insulation, and a small potbellied stove to warm that 3 room home. Snow from lake effect sometimes was 345 inches a year. We then went down into the mines where the copper was pulled out of the earth with little more than hand tools in the beginning. I had no idea of those roots of my heritage; I was stunned into silence. The air closed around me as I thought thinking, feeling, grateful for the heritage that was my past. I knew that those miners, and the women who supported them were all stronger than I ever understood and that strength was in my blood, yes, in my blood and I know now, without a doubt that I have the strength to live my life on my terms. Thank you, Ancestors!

The stories of our ancestors are woven into the fabric of our identities. They are the foundation upon which we build our lives, providing us with a sense of belonging and continuity. When we take the time to learn about their lives, we discover the values and lessons that have been passed down through generations. These stories offer us guidance and inspiration, helping us to navigate our own paths with confidence and purpose.

With this knowledge I am proud to talk about where I came from and what it means to be a Vaive.

In today’s fast-paced world, it can be challenging to find the time to reflect on our heritage. However, doing so can be incredibly rewarding. By exploring our family histories, we can uncover the rich tapestry of experiences that have shaped our families and communities. We can learn about the triumphs and trials of our ancestors, gaining insight into the resilience and strength that have been passed down to us.

One way to connect with our ancestors is through storytelling. Sharing stories about our family’s past can be a powerful way to keep their memories alive and to pass on their wisdom to future generations. These stories can be shared around the dinner table, at family gatherings, or through written accounts that can be preserved for posterity. By keeping these stories alive, we ensure that the legacy of our ancestors continues to inspire and guide us.

Did you know that most things we read from long ago were first passed along to each generation as a story told, most often around tables while eating? That narrative is the most engaging way to share information.

Another way to honor our ancestors is by participating in cultural traditions and rituals. Many cultures have specific practices that are designed to honor and remember those who have passed on. These rituals can provide a sense of connection and continuity, linking us to our past and reminding us of the enduring strength of our heritage. Whether it’s lighting a candle in memory of a loved one, participating in a traditional ceremony, or simply taking a moment to reflect on the lives of those who came before us, these practices can be a meaningful way to honor our ancestors.

In addition to personal reflection and storytelling, we can also draw inspiration from the broader historical context in which our ancestors lived. By studying history, we can gain a deeper understanding of the challenges and triumphs that shaped their lives. This knowledge can provide us with valuable insights into the resilience and determination that enabled them to overcome adversity. It can also help us to appreciate the progress that has been made over time and to recognize the ongoing struggles that we must continue to address.

As we reflect on the legacy of our ancestors, it’s important to remember that their strength and resilience are not just relics of the past. They are qualities that we can cultivate in our own lives. By embracing the lessons of our ancestors, we can find the courage and determination to face our own challenges with grace and resolve. We can draw on their wisdom to navigate the complexities of modern life, finding hope and inspiration in their enduring spirit.

Like my brother and I going up to Copper Harbor we found that our ancestors are a living source of strength and wisdom that can guide us through the challenges of today. By honoring their legacy, we were able to see a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. We can draw inspiration from their resilience and determination, finding the courage to face our own struggles with hope and faith. As we navigate the complexities of modern life, let us remember the enduring spirit of our ancestors and the lessons they have to offer. Together, we can carry their legacy forward, finding strength in their timeless wisdom.