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Redefining the people that have walked with us

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I have been talking about this subject the last few blogs and although some folks use a very narrow definition of the word ancestor, I use the word as an indicator of legacy and interconnections. The ancestors are elders who pour their lives into the community and family as a testament of love and commitment. They live and die well, and when they transition, hopefully they are lucky enough to do so in full connection with an engaged community. We believe they then dwell in the spaces carved out by our spiritual and cultural expectations. They may be in another life dimension, but they connect with us in dreams, in memories, and in stories.

I want to take this  profound perspective a little further, inspired by one of my favorite authors, Barbara Holmes, which got me thinking about my own journey with people from the past. How do I define an ancestor? Must they be people directly related to me? Do they have to be individuals I knew personally? And how have these people, whether known or unknown, helped me on my own journey?

For some, the idea that our ancestors are with us right now might seem a bit mystical or “woo woo.” However, the concept of epigenetics offers a fascinating scientific perspective on how the experiences of our ancestors can influence us today. Epigenetic’s is the study of changes in organisms caused by modification of gene expression rather than alteration of the genetic code itself. While I do not know what all of it means it does suggests that the life experiences of our ancestors, such as trauma or triumph, can leave a biological imprint on future generations. This means that the legacy of our ancestors is not just a spiritual or cultural phenomenon but also a biological one.

Historically, many cultures have revered their ancestors, believing that they continue to play an active role in the lives of the living. In ancient Egypt, for example, (taken in part from the book of the dead) the practice of ancestor worship was integral to their society. The Egyptians believed that the deceased could influence the fortunes of the living, and they often made offerings to their ancestors to ensure their favor. Similarly, in many African cultures, ancestors are seen as guardians and guides, providing wisdom and protection to their descendants.

In my own life, I have found that connecting with my ancestors, whether through family stories, historical research, or personal reflection, has been a source of strength and guidance. I remember sitting with my grandmother in the kitchen on Rosemont Ave right off of 7 mile in Detroit as she recounted tales of her parents and grandparents, having come from the French speaking areas of Canada,  painting vivid pictures of their lives and struggles. I did not know that some of my cousins were lumber jacks, I was very surprised to learn these stories were more than just family history; they were lessons in resilience, love, and perseverance.

But what about those ancestors we never knew personally? Can they still impact our lives? I believe they can. Consider the stories of historical figures who have inspired generations. Figures like Harriet Tubman, Mahatma Gandhi, and Nelson Mandela have become ancestors to us all, their legacies transcending bloodlines to touch the hearts and minds of people worldwide. Their courage and commitment to justice continue to inspire and guide us, much like the ancestors in our own families.

Have you ever tried talking with those who have gone before us? Whether they were people close to us or individuals we only read about on the front page of the family Bible, reaching out to our ancestors can be a powerful experience. This doesn’t necessarily mean holding a séance or engaging in spiritual rituals, although those practices have their place in many cultures. It can be as simple as reflecting on their lives, writing letters to them, or visiting places that were significant to them.

By doing this, we open ourselves to the wisdom and guidance they have to offer. We may find answers to questions we’ve been pondering or gain new perspectives on challenges we’re facing. Our ancestors, whether known or unknown, have walked paths similar to ours. If we ponder how they have faced adversity, celebrated triumphs, and navigated the complexities of life, we might get answers that have eluded us.. By connecting with them, we tap into a wellspring of experience and insight.

Moreover, acknowledging our ancestors helps us understand our place in the world. We are part of a continuum, a tapestry woven from the threads of countless lives. Each of us is a link in a chain that stretches back through time and will continue into the future. Recognizing this interconnectedness can be both humbling and empowering. It reminds us that we are never truly alone; we carry the hopes, dreams, and wisdom of those who came before us.

As I said on Fridays blog post, with today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to lose sight of our roots. We become so focused on the present and future that we forget the past. Yet, our ancestors are an integral part of who we are. They have shaped our identities, influenced our values, and laid the groundwork for the lives we lead today.

So, how do we honor our ancestors and keep their memories alive? One way is through storytelling. Sharing family stories, whether around the dinner table or in written form, ensures that the lessons and legacies of our ancestors are passed down to future generations. Engaging in cultural traditions and rituals can also help us maintain a connection with our roots. One of the things I am going to start doing is writing down some of the stories I have heard to remind me and encourage me.

Another way is through personal reflection and meditation. Taking time to contemplate the lives of our ancestors, their struggles, and their triumphs can provide us with valuable insights and inspiration. We can also explore our family histories through research, uncovering hidden stories and connections that enrich our understanding of who we are.

Our ancestors are more than just names on a family tree. They are a living legacy, a source of strength and wisdom that continues to influence our lives. By embracing our connection with them, we honor their memory and ensure that their stories and lessons endure. Whether through spiritual, cultural, or scientific lenses, recognizing the impact of our ancestors enriches our lives and deepens our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

Embracing Our Ancestors: A Living Legacy of Strength

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In the confusion that many of us find ourselves in modern life, it’s easy to become disconnected from the past. We often find ourselves so focused on the present and the future that we forget to look back and appreciate the rich tapestry of history that has shaped us. Yet, as Steven Charleston, Choctaw elder and retired Episcopal bishop, points out, our ancestors are not just figures of the past; they are a living source of strength and wisdom that can guide us through the challenges we face today.

Charleston’s words remind us that the struggles we encounter are not unique to our time. Our ancestors faced their own battles—fear of illness, heartbreak, family conflicts, and the looming threat of war. They lived in a world where corrupt politicians held power and natural disasters struck without warning. Despite these challenges, they persevered, driven by love, faith, and an unwavering determination to carry on. You can know this to be true, as you are here now, smile.

This resilience is a testament to the human spirit. Our ancestors walked through life’s storms with courage and grace, refusing to succumb to despair. They found ways to navigate their grief and struggles, drawing strength from their communities and their beliefs. Their ability to endure and overcome is a powerful reminder that we, too, can rise above our difficulties. But, please make no mistake, they were not always happy, they had lives just like ours.

In many cultures, honoring the ancestors is not just a quaint tradition but a vital part of daily life. It is a way of acknowledging the sacrifices and achievements of those who came before us, recognizing that their experiences and wisdom continue to shape our lives. By connecting with our ancestral roots, we gain a deeper understanding of who we are and where we come from. Consider that many people are very interested in the genealogy websites that track your roots. What can we find out about those investigations?

I wanted to see where I came from so my brother and I with our families traveled to the upper peninsula of Michigan to a little mining town called Copper Harbor. We found graves from when the area was first settled after the copper ore was found. We stopped to see the frame homes that the boards which made up the outside skin of the home. It seemed to lack the ability to form a seal to keep the frigid wind out. With no insulation, and a small potbellied stove to warm that 3 room home. Snow from lake effect sometimes was 345 inches a year. We then went down into the mines where the copper was pulled out of the earth with little more than hand tools in the beginning. I had no idea of those roots of my heritage; I was stunned into silence. The air closed around me as I thought thinking, feeling, grateful for the heritage that was my past. I knew that those miners, and the women who supported them were all stronger than I ever understood and that strength was in my blood, yes, in my blood and I know now, without a doubt that I have the strength to live my life on my terms. Thank you, Ancestors!

The stories of our ancestors are woven into the fabric of our identities. They are the foundation upon which we build our lives, providing us with a sense of belonging and continuity. When we take the time to learn about their lives, we discover the values and lessons that have been passed down through generations. These stories offer us guidance and inspiration, helping us to navigate our own paths with confidence and purpose.

With this knowledge I am proud to talk about where I came from and what it means to be a Vaive.

In today’s fast-paced world, it can be challenging to find the time to reflect on our heritage. However, doing so can be incredibly rewarding. By exploring our family histories, we can uncover the rich tapestry of experiences that have shaped our families and communities. We can learn about the triumphs and trials of our ancestors, gaining insight into the resilience and strength that have been passed down to us.

One way to connect with our ancestors is through storytelling. Sharing stories about our family’s past can be a powerful way to keep their memories alive and to pass on their wisdom to future generations. These stories can be shared around the dinner table, at family gatherings, or through written accounts that can be preserved for posterity. By keeping these stories alive, we ensure that the legacy of our ancestors continues to inspire and guide us.

Did you know that most things we read from long ago were first passed along to each generation as a story told, most often around tables while eating? That narrative is the most engaging way to share information.

Another way to honor our ancestors is by participating in cultural traditions and rituals. Many cultures have specific practices that are designed to honor and remember those who have passed on. These rituals can provide a sense of connection and continuity, linking us to our past and reminding us of the enduring strength of our heritage. Whether it’s lighting a candle in memory of a loved one, participating in a traditional ceremony, or simply taking a moment to reflect on the lives of those who came before us, these practices can be a meaningful way to honor our ancestors.

In addition to personal reflection and storytelling, we can also draw inspiration from the broader historical context in which our ancestors lived. By studying history, we can gain a deeper understanding of the challenges and triumphs that shaped their lives. This knowledge can provide us with valuable insights into the resilience and determination that enabled them to overcome adversity. It can also help us to appreciate the progress that has been made over time and to recognize the ongoing struggles that we must continue to address.

As we reflect on the legacy of our ancestors, it’s important to remember that their strength and resilience are not just relics of the past. They are qualities that we can cultivate in our own lives. By embracing the lessons of our ancestors, we can find the courage and determination to face our own challenges with grace and resolve. We can draw on their wisdom to navigate the complexities of modern life, finding hope and inspiration in their enduring spirit.

Like my brother and I going up to Copper Harbor we found that our ancestors are a living source of strength and wisdom that can guide us through the challenges of today. By honoring their legacy, we were able to see a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world. We can draw inspiration from their resilience and determination, finding the courage to face our own struggles with hope and faith. As we navigate the complexities of modern life, let us remember the enduring spirit of our ancestors and the lessons they have to offer. Together, we can carry their legacy forward, finding strength in their timeless wisdom.