Reflecting on where we stand in life and the decisions, we make is not a luxury reserved for philosophers or the privileged; it is a practical necessity for anyone who shoulders responsibility—whether as a leader, a parent, a partner, or a friend. Every choice we make ripples outward: policies we endorse shape communities, the tone […]
There were times when I felt utterly out of control, a realization that didn’t come with a map—only the uneasy knowledge that thinking harder wouldn’t change how I reacted. What helped was an ongoing practice of curiosity and embodiment: tiny experiments like three daily check-ins, a weekly trigger log, or a 30-day journal that forced […]
I remember the day my youngest child was born like a photograph in slow motion. It was 43 years ago, in a delivery room that smelled of antiseptic and hope. I promised myself I would be there — not because I thought I could do anything technical, but because something inside me insisted I needed […]
When I was a child, summer evenings meant the sweet, damp smell of grass and the soft thud of bare feet on the lawn as we played hide-and-seek until the light thinned to the color of my old side of our old house. I remember crouching behind brick walls in that ethnic area of Detroit […]
Today’s blog post is about Easter from a deeply methodist standpoint in the form of a sermon. As a spiritual director I felt with all that is going on in the world we could take a moment and breathe into a deeply felt practice. And yes, I know that some of my brothers and sisters […]
You’ve probably heard the phrase “emotional intelligence” thrown around in meetings, on LinkedIn posts, and in self-help emails. It’s become one of those buzzwords that can feel both promising and slippery — promising because it suggests we can get better at being human with each other, slippery because it can stay as a concept in […]
I have started todays blog with a paraphrased story to illustrate this important study for coaching and spiritual direction. When my friend Lila brought her twenty-four–year–old nephew, Jonah, to the small group at our church last spring, I expected the usual restless energy of someone caught between college and a first job. Jonah sat quietly […]
Some of you may have of heard about contemplation and written it off as a bunch of woo woo. But contemplation is less a set of techniques and more a shared journey inward—one we take together, step by quiet step. It slowly rewires our brains so we can meet reality as it is: without judgment, […]
The ache of loneliness is deep and profound for some of us. It shows up in our posture, our energy and the way we relate to the world. I remember when I went through a painful divorce and the loneliness I felt. I did not have any self-esteem, or knowledge of what was next in […]
Blending Emotional and Spiritual Intelligence: Adding connection to Yourself (awareness), Your Familiar others (belonging),, and the World (insight). A story that shaped everything My wife Lynette and I were at a conference in Italy for 6 Seconds when all our stuff was stolen while we stopped for lunch. We came back to the car, looked […]
